Don't BLAME HIM for the "hurt" you're feeling when...

         If you're into him, you're into him, and you demonstrate that proactively and explicitly.  You don't keep him guessing.  If you're giving him cold shoulders, then you're not into him.  If you're "keeping your options open," you're NOT into him.  If you're not going out of your way to communicate, avoid ambiguity, and fan the flames of romance, you're NOT into him.  Accept responsibility for yourself.  Face it!  Square with it!  Say it!  Move on!  But, DON'T BLAME HIM for "hurting YOU" when he decides to move on too, especially if he has done his best to demonstrate that he's into you.   That's the way I see it.  That's the way I am about it. 

     It's no crime to NOT be into him.  You should be (and feel) free to pursue your own interests as you see fit.   There are many reasons that could explain why you're NOT into him.  You don't have to apologize for that.  However, as I said, if he decides to move on, DON'T BLAME HIM for any of the "hurt" you might feel because he decided to move on due to YOUR coldness.