My Mr. Right (when it isn't me): 2013

Monday, December 30, 2013

Some things about me you might want to know (or maybe not).

Your knowing this stuff could help you prevent wasting time.

I don't like when it seems to me that someone wants to be my friend just so he can talk about lust, smut, and sex with me.

I don't like when anyone aims flirting remarks at me on public forums.

I don't like when anyone starts flirting with me too quickly.

I hate when the terms "dude," "sexy," and "hot" are aimed at me.

I never will have sex until I am married. Period.

I hate profanity!

I hate tobacco products and/or illegal drugs.

I hate excessive consumption of alcohol.

I hate "the closet." I will never be "in the closet" again.

I treat "apologies" without changes in behavior as meaningless.

I love, Love, LOVE God, Christianity, Bible study /discussions, worship and praise.

I love, Love, LOVE good manners.

I love, Love, LOVE attitude of gratitude.

I love, Love, LOVE caring for people as best as I can.

I love, Love, LOVE being charitable as best as I can.

I love, Love, LOVE listening to understand.

I love, Love, LOVE letting people speak for themselves.

I love, Love, LOVE speaking for myself.

I love, Love, LOVE understanding opinions in addition to my own.

I love, Love, LOVE understanding as many sides of a debate as I can grasp.

Sunday, December 29, 2013

Picture I made of myself on Saturday / Sunday, December 28, 29, 2013

As I see it, 2014 is NOT coming to us, but we are GOING to it, and we're almost there!

One of my mottos goes like this: Live 100+ years, not the same year 100+ times!

Another is this. I'm going to live until I die, and live some more!

I started my 56th lap around the sun a few days ago (Dec. 19). During this lap, I intend to finish earning my license in Cosmetology. After that, I'm not sure (I can't predict), but I've been thinking that I want to make "A world of my own," but I might have to seek other employment too.

Saturday, December 28, 2013

Homosexual Love + Appropriate context = a morally wonderful set of circumstances...!

Saying that "homosexual love is immoral" is like saying "a medicine (a peach, a tree, etc) is immoral." The statement makes absolutely no sense! Homosexual love is only one part of an equation. Another part is needed. It's like a math problem. "Homosexual Love + the right (I'm using that term loosely) context = a morally wonderful set of circumstances and makes the world a better place! Preachers / Teachers have been terribly wrong about matters before. They are terribly wrong NOW when they claim that homosexual love is wrong / immoral.

Thursday, December 26, 2013

I was just thinking out loud! That's all! I should neither flirt nor fan the flames... these days!

"What did you say?" mom asked as I was putting washed laundry into the dryer.

"Oops! I was just thinking outloud!" LOL!

I've had lots of time on my hands. I'd rather be attending classes, but the school is doing the winter vacation thing and won't kick back in until after January 1, 2014. My Lincoln Town Car (1998, I paid $3500 for it. It had only 109k miles on it. Insurance cost me $50 monthly.) is NOT a fuel saver, so I've been staying home as much as I can stand it (I think that car is doing me a big favor! Besides, it's comfortable to drive). I've even taken a break from Gym therapy (I'll kick that back in and condition myself before we reach the spring season). Exchanging ideas, comments, and questions with people online has helped to provide a little something to do besides cooking and chores.

I don't flirt with people these days, and I try to avoid fanning flames of flirting remarks made (in good faith I presume) towards me, because I'm not able to support courtship and romance while I'm attending school classes. I must (and want to) stay focused and perform well.

Will I meet (or have I met and don't know it) a potential mate while I'm attending school? Who knows? Is finding a mate-for-life in the cards for me? I don't know! I enjoy dreaming about it though!

I'll be near 57 years old when I finish my classes and can complete the exams for my Cosmetology license. At least I'll have the license! Hopefully, I can make some money. I might have to find other employment too -- substitute teaching, factory worker, department store associate, etc. Hopefully, I'll be able to continue renting from my parents.

I returned to Habersham County, Georgia to be with my parents. Mom wrote me a letter asking me to "come home" (from South Korea). Don't misunderstand me. I'm not blaming mom for anything. I'm simply acknowledging that we're mortal beings, and I want to enjoy our time together as much as possible. Who knows that I won't finish my life before either of them does? While contemplating my return, I decided that earning a license at the technical college nearby could be a good use of time and money while I'm settling back into the area.

What are the chances in Habersham County, Georgia, during this time of my life, of me crossing the path of the man who would be my mate and with whom I'd live happily ever after? As far as I can tell, God will have to put it together. Really, if God doesn't put it together, I don't want it. I've enjoyed romantic relationships with three men in the past. Each, I believed, was to be the "until death do us part" romantic venture. I've traveled a lot and have lived in many places in the USA. I've earned a couple of bachelor degrees, have worked in several industries. I (because it was the only proper / acceptable things to do according to everyone I knew) even married a woman (so that I could cure my homosexuality). We ended that offically in 1989. Yea, I paid a LOT of child support. I was perfectly fine with supporting the children, but the "ex" and I were very much at odds about stuff. I started a Youtube channel hoping my children would find it and make contact with me. They did! My daughter is now grown with three children. My son (who I've always wanted to have a heterosexual father who wanted children), also grown, has been adopted into the second marriage of the "ex." I would call all that a rich life. Has it been prepping me for now? for life in Habersham County, Georgia? I don't know! "O' Lord, what's going on?"

Still, I find some consolation in socializing as best as I can. Internet helps with that, but, as I said, I'm not able to support -- emotionally, financially, physically, spiritually, intellectually -- courtship and romance these days, so I should not flirt and fan flames of flirting remarks made (whether made in good faith or not) towards me -- and I'm okay with all that. I have to be!

And still, I can enjoy my dreams!

Sunday, December 22, 2013

To Me, This is What Romantic Love Looks Like Among Gay Men

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Please, never call me "sexy!"

My "Mr. Right" will call me by my name, because my name is one thing (of many) that makes his heart sing. Explicitly, I will let him know frequently that his name (among many other things) makes my heart sing too. He will never call me "sexy," because he embraces me, not as a sex object, not as an object at all, but as the person he knows and to whom he wants to give his love as freely and abundantly as he can muster, because I'm the person he never wants to live without. Explicitly, and in every other way I can manage, he will know, and love, the fact I will never address him as "sexy," because he's the man who makes my heart sing, and he'll know I'll always want to be with him, and it's to him (and to him only) that I wish to give my love as freely and abundantly as I can muster.

Luring each other to sexual love is not, and will not be, the theme of our interactions with each other. Our theme will be to have and to hold for richer or poorer in sickness and in health until death do us part, not because we simply took the gamble and pledged so, but because we know it's right for us because it rightly expresses and completes who we are and who we can be.

We're not engaged in a competition against other men. We're not engaged in any competition at all. We're engaged in our vision, our journey, and our world that's complete because we are one.

In our book, "sexy" is not, and will never be, a complement!

Call it a dream! That's okay! I'll continue to enjoy dreaming the dream!

Tuesday, December 17, 2013

I don't care how big (or small) his wee-wee is!

I want to learn

What makes him smile
What makes him cry
How he reacts when I call him several times everyday
What are his good manner like
Will he call me several times everyday
That thing he does
What he like when "there's nothing to do"
Is he in love with me or his phone
What are his driving habits
How does he treat his parents
What foods he enjoys eating
How does he enjoy his coffee / tea
Does he like to swim
He much TV does he watch
Does he like thrift store shopping
Does he like the food I cook
Is he afraid to show spontaneous affection
Does he love me
Do I love him
etc
etc

The size of his wee-wee won't matter. I don't want to know if he's "top or bottom." I don't even care about his "sexual performance." In fact, I'll insist that we wait until marriage.

I just don't like tattoos and public displays of below the belt pubic hair!

Has he got a body that inspires me? YES! But, I hate tattoos, and I hate public displays of public hair below the belt. I'm not denying that there's artwork and a lot of skill being displayed in the tattoos. I am all in favor of anyone enjoying his own body as he / she pleases. People don't have to care about what I like / dislike. I'm simply revealing myself -- as shallow, as vanilla, as fussy, as whatever anyone might want to label me -- as I enjoy being. The person with the tattoos could be the kindest and most charitable person on earth, and I would applaud that person. Still, I don't like tattoo's and I don't like public displays of the pubic hair below the belt. Yes, I would decline dating someone based upon my likes / dislikes. Will I be missing out? Maybe! Who knows? I can live with that!

Now when I say public, I'm not talking about in a large shower room for men. While living in South Korea, I showered, walked around, soaked in the tubs, and enjoyed scrub downs in many of them. Yes, I've seen men and boys of all shapes, sizes, and colors.

Monday, December 16, 2013

Six pack abs aren't required, but...!

as far as looks go, I'm more attracted to men with dancer / swimmer / slim build bodies. Yes, I wish I'd see more older men with dancer / swimmer / slim build bodies than I usually do.

Not everyone is attracted to men of such size. Each person, I tend to think, should embrace what he / she likes and go with it without pretense. There's no good reason to insult people, to be rude towards people, to hate on people. Everyone can like what / who he /she pleases, in peace.

I'm not attracted by butt crack shown in public!

Call me prudish, fussy, or whatever, I'm simply not attracted by butt crack shown in public. In fact I find public displays of butt crack to be repulsive. That's me! I'm not going to change! I don't expect anyone to be like me! It doesn't mean that I don't like the person. It doesn't mean that I'm judging the person. I'm simply acknowledge what I don't like. You don't have to care about that. Go with what YOU like, and don't worry about what I like!

Thursday, August 8, 2013

I wouldn't mind if he looked something like this!

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Saturday, August 3, 2013

If he looked something like this, I wouldn't mind!

If he looked something like this, I wouldn't mind! The Slab: Fave

I'm not a sports fan, nor have I ever wished to be one! I'm not an athlete, nor have I ever wished to be one! Yes, I do like the looks of SOME men who look like they spend time at a gym (whether they are athletes or not). It's true that "looks" aren't EVERYTHING that matters! Still, I'm not blind, and I enjoy looking at sights that are beautiful to my eye / mind.

Thursday, June 6, 2013

When I think of a healthy looking guy, something like this comes to mind!

I wouldn’t mind if he looked something like this.

Very lovely picture done in good taste (according to my tastes).

http://ronaldsbatson.tumblr.com/post/52350761028