If he looked something like this, I would not complain!

Made of the mist:

You might like me. I might like you. We...

     You might like me just as I am.  I might like you just as you are.  We might make a wonderful mix of goodness just as we are.  We might set our worlds on fire.  We might go somewhere together!

Stop telling me you like my appearance when I __________.

      Stop telling me, "You look better when you're ___________ (this way, that way, some other way).

     What you should've said is, "I like your appearance better when you're ________."

     Maybe you should have said, "I wish you would suit my preference __________."

     Look!  I'm glad you liked my appearance when I was bald, when I had black hair, when I had a beard, when I had long hair, etc, but 

• There's no guarantee that if I were to change my appearance to fit what you (or anyone else) like/s that we would end up living happily ever after together. 
• Life is too short for me to not enjoy my own body, my own hair, my own choices of clothing as I go all along the way.
• If you really like me, then you like me no matter what I wear, no matter how I wear my hair, no matter what I do.  You like me, because you like me as I am.  Period. 

   

... but is he cute on the inside?

     I'm attracted to his face, but not his body.  I'm attracted to his body, but not his face.  Wow!  He's all cute on the outside, but I wonder what he's like on the inside!  It's hard to see the inside before seeing the outside!  

When I see the phrase "top only,"....

     When it comes to dating (a potential mate for life) I never want to see the phrase "top only."  When I do, I usually just move on.

     I'm not saying that there aren't any "top only" guys out there.  The world does not revolve around me and my particular preferences.  People, in my opinion, have the right to pursue their own happiness (and I have the right to pursue and maintain mine).  

     Still (and no one is forcing anyone to read this), when I read "top only," the following thoughts crop up in my mind

• I want to do all the poking.
• I don't want to expose myself to any possible risks, although I don't mind exposing someone else....
• I'm just a f**ker.
• I don't mind f**king others, but I sure don't want them f**king me!

     Yea!  I know!  I know!  There are some "bottom only" guys out there too.  I move on from their profiles too.

     Have I given away too much information about myself.  Maybe.  Maybe not.  Actually, my personal view (however naive it may be) is that if two guys are in love -- I mean REALLY IN LOVE -- with each other, they will enjoy the sexual love that belongs only to them in their own world.  Yes, I said "sexual love," and (in my mind) it won't be as simple as "top" and "bottom."  It'll be far more intimate, nurturing, wonderful and everlasting.  I look for that potential even though doing so puts me, it seems, in a very small minority.  Well, I'm okay with that, for like I said, "I have the right to pursue my own happiness."

When I see the term "bisexual,"....

     I am well aware that, in some parts of the world, the term "bisexual" indicates "top."  However, I will never buy that interpretation.  Can women use such a term?  Some women are "bisexual" you know!

     In my mind, "bi" means "two."  "Bisexual" means a person enjoys sex with males AND females.  That's all it means.  It does NOT mean "top" and "Gay" does NOT mean bottom.

     In my mind, people, in some parts of the world, use the term "bisexual" for themselves because they are trying to hide the truth.  I'm not talking about people who enjoy sexual love with both sexes.  I'm talking about people who use the term "bisexual" to mean "top."  The truth is they are Gay, and "bisexual" provides a bit of safety.  They are trying to play it safe.  They want all the glory, but none of the guts.  They are gaming.  They wanna poke someone (and be able to deny it), but they don't wanna get poked by anyone.

     I could be WRONG, and I can live with that.  Still, when I see the term "bisexual," in a profile, I delete the profile, because, when it comes to prospects for a potential life mate, I'm definitely NOT looking for a bisexual.

When I see the phrase "straight acting,"....

     When I see the phrase "straight acting," I delete that profile, no questions asked.

If he looked like this, I would not complain.

Positioned:

My Grandma said, "You'll make someone a good wife."

     Think so, Grandma?

     Maybe she was on to something... more so than she knew... and long before I ever knew what it could've meant.